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[morethanafeeling]

Hi everyone,

Okay, so I'm a big dummy.  I got the call (yes, THAT one), but I totally didn't expect it.  I mean, I knew we were going to talk about my book and everything, and I'd even looked up some questions just in case, but when it came time I totally blanked.  I only asked about three of my questions because I'm lame because I got so excited.  When she actually said the words "offer of representation," I think I kind did this number in my head   .  So, what do I do now?  Do I send her an email containing all my questions in list format?  She's left the door open to email any questions, so does this sound okay???  It's kind of a long list since I left so many of them out.  What's the best way to ask my questions, and not come off as looking like a total idiot?  Any imput would be so much appreciated.

Thanks,

Morethanafeeling

[KalenO]

First off, breathe.

Second of all, recognize there are no mistakes for you to make in this process.  All the advice out there about what to do after you get your offer?  It's just advice.  Guidelines.  There's no checklist of specific questions or actions you MUST take.

Finally....the agent gave you an avenue to pursue further conversation with her....use it.  Be honest.  Say you know what, I was so excited about your call there's a whole bunch of things I forgot to ask you!  She'll be okay with it, she might even be open to having another call with you before you make your decision to cover anything else you want to discuss.  You're far from the first writer to lose her wits and be overcome with emotion upon receiving the fabled Call.  Furthermore, this is someone you might be working very closely with for a very long time.  You can't be afraid to approach her or ask her questions when you have books out on submission with editors or deadlines you're stressing about, so why be afraid now?  This is the time to start viewing her as an individual and a business partner, rather than just one of the gatekeepers that hold all the secrets of publishing in their hands.  YOU earned that call.  By extending you an offer of rep, she's acknowledged you as an equal who brings something very valuable to the table - your book.  She's not doing you a favor here. 

The only thing you absolutely can not do is come back to her in a week and accept her offer while still having reservations or things you wish you'd discussed ahead of time, because that absolutely will become a problem later.  If you have any qualms or things you need addressed, now is the time to address them. 

[brendasjb]

Everything KalenO said. I think he's 100% right.

[meddyK]

Hey morethanafeeling! I remember you from over on the main QT website.  I'm so excited for you!

Just wanted to put my .02 in. KalenO is chock full of wisdom. Listen to him, you must. (I'm doing my Yoda impression now).

At this point, remember that the agent is wooing you. You've been querying so it feels like they are doing you a favor, but in fact, she sees something she loves and can sell, and now it's your turn to see if she'll do justice to your work.

So it's more than okay to email her and either do an email exchange with questions, or set up another phone call. Totally.

Good luck, and tell us how it goes!

[Zooks]

@morethanafeeling - again, congratulations!  KalenO put it so perfectly.  I'd follow his suggestions.   

[morethanafeeling]

Oh, thank you.

I think I was in freak out mode there for a second.  KalenO, your words of wisdome have definitely calmed me down and pointed me in the right direction.  Like you said, I think I need to change my mindset as well.  I'm so thankful for the advice and thoughts of everyone here.  Believe me, it really helps and I appreciate the feedback so much.  Have to go off now and write that email!

Thanks everyone,

Morethanafeeling

[GennAlbin]

Just wanted to reiterate that you should ask for another phone call if you need it.  Believe me, the agent will be eager to answer your questions, because she loves your book!

[morethanafeeling]

Thank you so much guys.  I actually shot her an email, and she was so great about it.  I didn't feel stupid at all.  Answered all my questions and quickly, too.  She's so considerate, and I feel really comfortable contacting her.  This whole finding-an-agent-who-actually-WANTS-your-book feels like a dream.  After three manuscripts, I was beginning to think it wouldn't happen for me.  I guess perserverance really does pay off  I hope everyone querying keeps on keepin' on so they can experience this feeling!!!  I'll be rooting for you all

[Barnes55]

I'm so glad you got in touch with the agent, and I'm delighted to hear that she was receptive and prompt.  The gut feeling you get at this point is an important indicator.  And as everyone said, you sure wouldn't want to sign with an agent who made you feel that she was unapproachable, or couldn't be bothered to communicate with you.  Technically, in an agency relationship, they work for you.  (Of course, in reality, it doesn't always feel that way.)