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Offline AlythiaB

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How do you pass the time??
« on: September 21, 2011, 11:29:25 AM »
Ok, it's not like I've been waiting a super long time for the agent who has my full, but I can't stop obsessing over my email inbox. It's driving me crazy. I have 3 little kids and tons of stuff to do, but I still think about it! I just wish I knew how long each agent took. If I knew she took 3 months, I could let it go until then. How do you guys deal with the waiting???  ???
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #1 on: September 21, 2011, 12:02:15 PM »
Check out her QT stats, and that will give you a sense of how long she generally takes. You can also check out her stats for the last couple of months and see if she's running later than that.

Whenever you start obsessing over the agent who has your full, go ahead and query another agent. This helps in the long run because you'll probably get more requests, and then you can diffuse the worry out over a number of agents rather than just the one. And the new agents you've just queried don't know you're doing it because you had the urge to email a different agent.

It's just business. Use the energy productively.

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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #2 on: September 21, 2011, 01:15:44 PM »
 :agree:
I'd query more, and also write the next new novel in the meantime. It's the best cure for waiting.
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #3 on: September 21, 2011, 01:54:45 PM »
How do I deal with waiting?  About as well as I deal with rejection, which is why I query as many agents as I can in the hopes of generating as many partials and fulls as possible.  When a full comes back as a pass, the disappointment is much easier to manage if there are more fulls waiting for a response.  If you've queried every agent on your list, then begin your next project.  Keep busy and keep believing in yourself.  Waiting is not a healthy activity for writers.  It tends to feed our dark side and undermine our confidence, especially when a pass hits our inbox.  Our minds are geared for movement.  That's why we write.  And read.  And think.  Waiting is like a stop sign.  The only problem is our minds refuse to stop.  Given nothing to write, read or think about, my mind loves to go to that crazy default place, that unhealthy "you're probably just not good enough" place when I'm waiting too long for anything.  So I don't wait at all.  Sounds like you shouldn't either.

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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #4 on: September 21, 2011, 03:23:25 PM »
I wrote a new novel. It was the only way to really calm myself down while waiting on my fulls.
Also, starting something new really helped with rejections, too. Because when i got an R i was so in love with the new MS that the R on the older one kinda rolled off me easier.
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #5 on: September 21, 2011, 05:10:28 PM »
Good call, everybody. I write every night after the kids are asleep. It's during the day--in between chores, and naps--that I wander over to my computer, hoping for something (ANYTHING) from the people I've queried. I think I'm getting to the letting it go until I hear from her point.
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #6 on: September 21, 2011, 05:47:24 PM »
I wrote a new novel. It was the only way to really calm myself down while waiting on my fulls.
Also, starting something new really helped with rejections, too. Because when i got an R i was so in love with the new MS that the R on the older one kinda rolled off me easier.

This. Read, go out, try something new. Distract yourself or you'll go crazy!
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #7 on: September 23, 2011, 02:36:50 PM »
I applied to grad school. Now I barely have time to eat (I also have young kids and thought that would take my mind off it, but it didn't like school has--because now I'm forced to write something new every week).

So even if you're not ready for the next novel, it helps to give yourself short writing assignments. It will get the gears moving.

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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #8 on: September 25, 2011, 08:10:34 PM »
I asked this question once and someone suggested tap dancing lessons. I didn't take them up on it.
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #9 on: September 26, 2011, 12:07:32 AM »
HAHA! We should start an obsessive writers' tap dance league. I would be so down.
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #10 on: September 27, 2011, 10:26:42 PM »
 :clap: Awesome responses. Try not going nuts by keeping busy.  :crazy:

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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #11 on: October 05, 2011, 05:59:28 PM »
Unfortunately, I go for comfort food during these waiting periods... ugh. 
And I don't even want to go NEAR a scale these days. 

Yeah, I constantly check email, too.  My husband thinks I'm mental. 
I saw a license plate frame a few weeks ago that said, "Just hand over the chocolate, and nobody gets hurt."   :draw:  These days, I can relate. 
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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #12 on: October 12, 2011, 03:39:12 PM »
I'm glad someone else is struggling with the wait like I am. No matter what I do, I can't stop obsessing. But still, I have a recommendation--pick up a new hobbie. I rock climb, which is great for taking my mind off of the ol' gmail inbox because my iPhone never gets reception out at the crag. Though, climbing does nothing to relieve stress because I'm also afraid of heights. (Why do I do this to myself?)

Another idea--beef up your blog/twitter/website persona. You never know, a fabulous agent just might stumble upon your blog and send you an email begging you to be his or her client.

Just saying.

And good luck!

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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #13 on: October 12, 2011, 10:41:56 PM »
Ha! I have a bunch of agents who follow me on Twitter. Seems like we talk mostly about food.  ;D

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Re: How do you pass the time??
« Reply #14 on: October 13, 2011, 12:29:03 PM »
Confession: I used to turn up the volume of my computer speakers so I could hear the incoming email sound over the vacuum cleaner.  :emb:

But I am over that now. How? Well, I have 3 out of 4 fulls are past the 5-month mark and 2 partials are over 3 months. I'm not inclined to nudge. As much as I abhor waiting, at least I can think of those submissions as maybes.

Congrats on the full.  :clap: You should be excited--it's exciting stuff!--and I hope you hear back soon!
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