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Offline LStein

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Commiserating on waiting times?
« on: February 06, 2022, 10:23:10 AM »
Hi all,

I'm posting just because I'm anxious that I haven't heard back from most of the agents I've queried. Granted, I sent my first queries 1 week ago exactly, but I purposefully chose a number of agents who reject or request quickly, so I'd know if my query is working. I have had one request so far, which I'm thrilled about, but I'm also anxiously waiting to hear back from that agent lol.

Anyone else feeling the same anxiety? How long have you been waiting to hear back from your latest (or first) round of queries? How are you distracting yourself?  :)

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #1 on: February 06, 2022, 01:44:30 PM »
Hi LStein,

I hear ya.  Candidly, even one full request -- after only a week! -- already puts you in a better place than many aspiring writers.  Take some courage from that! 

But yes, the waiting is tortuous.  You can drive yourself nuts trying to read the tea leaves.  Silence can be good news:  you've made it past a first cut and are in a maybe pile... or bad:  you've already been rejected and are never going to hear anything. 

To give you some perspective, my own waitlist currently ranges from four weeks to three months.  The last of those is almost certainly not interested, and I should take them off the list.  Others (judging by their past habits and the querytracker timeline) may not even have opened it yet.  It sure would be easier if every agent at least committed to responding... but that's not the world we live in.

As for waiting on the full request:  do have some empathy for the agent.  They're handling all of their current clients' business (which means reading through manuscripts and publishing contracts), plus trying to read umpteen manuscripts for possible new clients.  Even just three potentials on the docket could mean a thousand pages of reading.  I got a reply to my full request after a month, and felt lucky with that.

BUT:  even pondering all of this does not make the waiting any easier.  I wish you luck and some more responses soon!  (And one tip, for what it's worth:  whenever I get a rejection, I immediately launch into an hour of tidying around the house.  Converting disappointment into labor gives me an outlet;  otherwise I would just mope, and what good does that do?  This practice also guarantees at least one small feeling of accomplishment at the end of the day... it's a manufactured silver lining, but silver nonetheless.)

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #2 on: February 06, 2022, 02:03:06 PM »
Thank you for your words of wisdom, Tallis.

The full request actually came in 1 day but that's how this agent is. Almost all of her full requests seem to be within a day or two and most of her rejections too. (Of course reading fulls takes much much longer so I don't begrudge her the time she needs to get to it!) I do feel really grateful to have that to hold onto, even though I know most fulls get rejected. Man, this is a tough business we've chosen.

You bring up a good point that they may not have even gotten to the query yet and that alone may take months.

Weirdly, sending more queries seems to be my reward for getting a rejection. I wish I cleaned when I was stressed. My house would be a lot neater!

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #3 on: February 27, 2022, 11:22:16 PM »
I am waiting on three agents with my full. One has had it since last August, one since September and one since December.

Meditation helps. And mojitos.

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #4 on: May 27, 2022, 06:09:23 AM »
I started querying in early April. I’ve received a fair few form rejections. No other responses yet. Argh!

Several of the nonresponders are agents I met at a conference a few months ago who seemed to like my pitch. Even if they don't like the actual query, wouldn't you think they’d respond?

So how long do I wait before I assume most are probably nos and move on? It's been about seven weeks now since I queried the ones I met. That's not great, is it?


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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #5 on: May 28, 2022, 09:19:29 AM »
And that QueryTracker timeline is the business! I drew hope from seeing that in a few cases I do appear to be in a maybe pile, with lots of queries before and after mine having been rejected. Obv doesn't mean I won't be.  :)
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Offline LStein

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #6 on: May 29, 2022, 07:01:41 PM »
I'm also hoping I'm in at least one agent's maybe pile but that's also anxiety-producing.

I've been CNRing queries once they've gone 2 weeks past the agent's stated response time. But there are a couple who said they respond to everyone but haven't responded to mine, so who knows? Maybe they're going "no response means no" or maybe they're just that far behind.

I do think the best way of dealing with it is sending more queries. Then, you have five agents to obsess about instead of one.

Offline Butters99

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #7 on: September 13, 2022, 01:58:00 PM »
I am waiting on three agents with my full. One has had it since last August, one since September and one since December.

Meditation helps. And mojitos.

A CHEERFUL UPDATE: I got an offer of representation from one of the agents I was waiting on!! All good things come to those who wait, sometimes interminably ;)

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #8 on: September 13, 2022, 07:15:31 PM »
Butters99, that's wonderful news!  Congratulations, and thanks for circling back to share. 

I'm still waiting on full requests dating as far back as six months ago... so, nothing happens fast.  Your story gives us all hope.

Offline LStein

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #9 on: September 15, 2022, 05:45:31 PM »
Butters99, that's amazing!  :clap:  :clap: How long did they have your full before they offered? Did they give an indication of why it took so long?

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #10 on: September 18, 2022, 10:56:30 AM »
The whole process took 8 months! So hang in there.

Offline LStein

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #11 on: September 18, 2022, 05:34:37 PM »
Do you mind going into the process a bit? I have two fulls out and I'm on tenterhooks.

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #12 on: Yesterday at 09:07:55 AM »
Congratulations, Butters99!  :clap: And thanks for the ray of hope. Let us know how it all goes!

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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #13 on: Yesterday at 11:15:58 AM »
And that QueryTracker timeline is the business! I drew hope from seeing that in a few cases I do appear to be in a maybe pile, with lots of queries before and after mine having been rejected. Obv doesn't mean I won't be.  :)

This drives me insane.

You look at the timeline, and see all these quick replies, good and bad. You see yours, lonely and unresponded to. What does this mean? You obsess about it, and watch as, every day, new queries are sent and answered; yet yours still sits, as if forgotten. You begin to check far too often, waiting to see if others are still receiving quick replies. You grow agitated, angry perhaps, melancholy even. At a certain point a form rejection would be preferable to the waiting and uncertainty, but no, the waiting continues.

Time ticks by, the hour growing late as your madness grows large. Another query answered. Another no. Another full request. But not for yours. Fate is laughing at you. God is testing you. The walls are closing in, the red and green (and sometimes purple) lines are appearing in ever greater quantities. Twitter shows the time they spend playing Wordle and not responding to you. Their blogs speak of their efforts at clearing their inbox of all but your letter.

Oh unfair burden of knowledge, what horrors do you reveal?! Would that I had never gazed upon the timeline or reply rate. Would that I had sent off queries and been content to wait three months and then move on. The madness would be tempered by time. The time would go unnoticed in ignorant bliss.

Fie, sweet timeline, fie!
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Re: Commiserating on waiting times?
« Reply #14 on: Yesterday at 09:16:57 PM »
Yup. It's a blessing and a curse. It's so easy to obsess and give yourself the illusion of control when the best thing to do would be to read or write or do almost anything else.

I do appreciate the methodical agents who respond to everyone in order. I can predict when I'm likely to get a response at least. And I do get hopeful when I'm skipped. We have to celebrate the small wins, even that.

I have 3 fulls out now. I'm trying to be patient and work on the new book but it's hard.